As most people would already know premarital sex is basically having sexual intercourse before marriage. And yeah I’m not here to judge any one or to list out the moral/biblical facts about sex before marriage as many people feel like it’s important to check their sexual compatibility before marriage but I must not go without saying that research has shown that couples who wait until marriage are happier with the quality of sex than couples who have intercourse before their vows.
so i am of the opinion that sex before marriage isn’t essentially bad and it isn’t necessarily good as well. Why? you may ask 🤷🏾♀️ .
Exploring your sexual fantasies and knowing what you like before marriage isn’t exactly bad but where there’s a problem is when you make these self discoveries with different sexual partners. You see I believe that have sex with someone brings emotional, physical and spiritual attachment and sharing this attachment with multiple people isn’t right . If you want to have sex with your partner before marriage fine go ahead I’m not about be hear sounding like your mum telling you not to ,but … Make sure it is your choice and you weren’t pressured into it and that you trust and are comfortable with this person to an extent and please use protection.
Where finding your self sexually is an advantage of premarital sex here are some disadvantages
- STD’s ( sexual transmitted diseases): having multiple sexual partners and not knowing the level of their SEX HYGIENE can lead you to contracting STD’s . If you don’t this you are probably too young to be having sex and trust me you wouldn’t like to get an STD .
- Tendencies of not lasting in marriage: when you are accustomed to having sex with multiple people at intervals having sex with one person continually in the name of marriage might not interest you any more and this could lead to infidelity in the marriage ,baby Mama’s here and there , divorce and broken homes with ( in some cases) broken kids.
- Unwanted pregnancy: the high rate of teenage pregnancy in this age and time is alarming but asides that speaking personally now you know when you are ready to have kids and when you’re not . The difference between getting pregnant unexpectedly when you are married and when you’re not can’t be balanced because as a married couple you can both handle the situation but as a young couple that isn’t married having sex without protection you know what you’re in for.
- Regret: I think this summarizes the disadvantages of premarital sex. when you regret something there’s no going back it’s either you dwell in your mistake or decide to move forward to make it better some times these mistakes can lead to unsolvable problems and that’s why it’s best to avoid them while you still can .
At the end of the day the choice is yours I am only laying out my opinion and I bet a lot of people have similar or different things to say about this subject or even questions to ask and guess what! you can drop it down in the comments 😁 and leave a like if this was informative .
That’s all for this post till my next 💕 as always Love, light and peace ✨
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